your that girl

Hello...for all two of you that actually read this blog,sorry that its been awhile.
I've just been working like the rent is due...
Speaking of work, whilst I was there the other day wanting to slit my wrists over how excruciatingly boring it was, one of my co-workers and I got into a conversation of how I am when I date.

Now before I launch into a metaphysical explanation of my inner psyche, and past hopes, dreams & schemes...let me just state for the record that most people my age, the 16-25 set, view dating as liking somebody, telling that somebody, then asking that somebody to be your boyfriend/girlfriend.
I don't know if I missed the memo on that one, but that is not how I view dating....at all. I like to go on dates to places ,not go chill on someones couch, which may or may not lead to making out. I want to get to know the person, spend some quality time together..I guess that makes me old fashioned..so kudos to my parents for that!

So when I began having a relationship-ish conversation with my co-worker, they probably didn't understand my unusual views on dating. All they knew was that I had high standards, which I do. Now I know you might be thinking that I have an inflated ego and think I'm hot shit. And I'm not saying that I don't think that I'm not attractive, because I do. But I also don't think men should bow down and worship my hottness when I enter a room.

My whole thing about dating is I'm not willing to settle. I feel like so many of my friends, and generally stories that I encounter from other women is that most women date either one of this guys;
1. The Nice Guy- This is the first guy in this women's life that is one of those truly nice,sweet guys. the type of guy that would never forget your birthday, the guy that will always remember to put the toilet seat down. The downside to this guy is that he will always put you before anything else, which in theory sounds good but in actuality,it just means he's a complete pushover.

2. The Popular Guy- This guy is the guy you wished you had dated in High school. He is the guy that everyone flocks, he always has people hanging on to his every word, and there's constantly a knit of people surrounding him. The downside to this guy varies but the main factor is he is constantly putting on a show. He will never really let his guard down around you, and although he is fun to be around, ultimately its not really "him" that you like, its the way he makes you feel.

3.The Boyfriend- This guy is your boyfriend from high school, college, grad school, whatever institution you have left behind high and dry. He has spent countless hours, times with you, your family and your friends and has earned brownie points over the years. He is the guy that knows you and appreciates you for..well you. The downside to this guy is that its the "old" you that he knows so well. While you were off preparing yourself for a new career, school, whatever he was so in tune with the old routine of things that he conveniently forgot to notice that you had completely changed. You want to stay with him because you think you both can grow together as a couple. But the sad truth is your waaaaay past that point, you've changed and he wont be able to adjust because he is wearing "old you" vision glasses...at all times.

These are just some of the types of guys that I feel all the women I know get stuck into relationships with. Albeit, the reason some of these girls stay with those type of guys is they would rather stay with the guy you know rather than go out and find another guy.
I'm not willing to do any of that just to have a boyfriend. Frankly I find it a little sad and pathetic that more women aren't willing to be single and really try and find a great guy than just settle for whats presenting itself at that moment in time.

Now I'm not saying that I plan on waiting on forever and a half for mr.perferct, because I'm not. I'm waiting on someone worth waiting for, someone who is worth my time. I guess that makes me singular in my quest, or at least unique to my peers but nevertheless I'm sticking to my version of things.